i had a very interesting conversation w/ one of my realtives the other day. well actually, N, shes my cousin, B, hes the husband. anyways, theyve been married for awhile. 2 kids, lucunya…. i mean, im not saying that their parents aint gud lookin, but their 2 kids… yg kakaknya cw, shes up-beat, funny, smart, pretty… adenya co, hes got that babyface type face, smart, witty…
anywho…. goin back to the topic of this blog i dono y im writing this down… but thats another story in another time… wat was i gonna say… oya… critanya tu ada gw, ade gw, N ama B. Since our parents were talkin only heaven knows in the other room, we "younger" generation decided to make our own conversation in an adjacent room. out of nowhere my bro started 2 ask to B, wen do u know its the rite time 2 get married? jeeezz….. i thought 2 myself… we r definitely gona b spendin da nite there, cause it was already around 10ish at nite.
tryin desperatly 2 make an already complicated story, uncomplicated… meaning im tired of typing… they said that intinya adalah bahwa u and ur partner is one entity, one statement, in agreement, which means that there is no contradiction. guard the entity from third party! third party could b friends, mertua, family..etc
a very simple example… B and N tinggal d mertua indah. one day ada tamu pas wiken. B likes to relax pas wiken. pas ada tamu, he still wears baju kebesarannya, which is kaos n mendek. the mertua thinks its impolite and kinda rude. so the mertua ask N if B punya baju yg bgs ga buat d rmh.
dsinilah masalah simple n kecil bisa terjadi. masing2 N and B have options that could escalate into war or… dredam and act like org waras.
pertama, N bisa bilang k B exactly wat her parents told her, which could make B sebel. or N bisa membela B n bilang k ortunya bahwa its wiken and thats its B’s relax day, but still tell B to dress more polite.
If N tells B exactly wat her parents told her, B could b upset n all hell brakes loose. or he could try n understand that it is actually third party voice, not N’s.
both N and B have the option untuk menjaga prasaan partner, menjaga entity, n separate third party voice dgn komunikasi.
baiklah sodara2… tired of typing in this cloudy wed afternoon. hidup gaji buta!!!